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7. Rosetta Lee - When They're Little

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I'm advocating that you start talking about institutional racism starting kindergarten calendar Ranger Pro  remember that when they're all they're doing is trying to understand the world from the world and your John is sitting form them otherwise okay so they're going to ask a ton of curiosity base questions about their friends were they going to lower it out whatever they say what your job is converse with at the same time you got to find out what they're actually asking or saying don't make a lot of assumptions about what kids are talking about like visit because I was black or because I was tall you got to find out and it's any person when they needed a little boy and she was like oh my gosh what am I going to say to this kid and thankfully she asked him a bunch of questions it turns out he had sat in her seat weave flashlight zip code super pasta temperature get to weisenborn not subjected by one's not equally appropriate the saying and asking like find out why they said that why they're curious about that will be very different for me if a little boy asked me can boys wear nail polish I certainly want to know whether it's because he wants to wear nail polish that's okay or not he wants to know I saw a boy with nail polish get bafana like what do you think about that sad boys don't wear nail polish checking in with the other offers in my life but that's definitely I once you actually do answer their questions or talk to them I do it really straightforwardly  often times we communicate a lot of anxiety with body language of off  you know it's like and they pick up all that anxiety and so like fake it until you can make answer the question really straightforward late and answer just the question that they're asking like again we launched into like a three-hour after school special when did I search about more though ask I like to treat the conversations will be on people like adorable depositions right answers no more no less, if necessary so the conversation I had with my nephew you know playing Legos in all sessions skin colors on my phone some people have a lot of more of the some skin chemical called melanin and the more you have the darker you are in the left have the lighter you are in the people have different amounts that's why we are all we have all different colors and he's like why how long will it turn to go we couldn't like move around and we didn't have cars or planes or anything to wherever we were born that's what we grew up and lived until he died and that's where our family is we're in like we just want to go anywhere we stay there and there are certain places in the globe where it is so sunny all the time and the Sun is so intense all the time it is a good idea have a lot of melanin right and there are certain places in the world where and  having some Bill's people like didn't have a whole lot of melanin at all but it was like depending on where you live he goes but we all live here now why do we still have colors  I'm like that's a great question you know how you got your mommy's eyes on your daddy's chin while we inherit physical looks from a biologic and they inherited from their biological parents and so even though we told me different we still have that pause  okay that we have different skin colors  different amounts of sunscreen now it's like a health question  okay because need more sunscreen put some on if you need more sun hold play outside now we got air conditioning and coats and hats and ways that it doesn't matter where we were living we can be  but what's really cool about it now is that we can live in the same place but be all of these different I think it might be a little bit more okay play bus after school special like closure but like he is. He was done and then I had a little anxiety attack best idea of that was literally where he was playing for curiosity Frost different and so hopefully we can model things like what happens when you encounter somebody from a different culture or when you try you know I meant actually teach young people about let certain verbal responses because they have immediate responses that can sound exclusive but they're not really being exclusive so you know one of the things that I like to tell kids don't anybody's Young volume I food and so excited to eat and then people making fun of it and how bad I felt and how I put it away in one hungry the rest of the day and then of course and wobbly like tearing up and then like  who is talk to Young and Brianna don't like epic learn really quickly that it's not just about food right there like purple is his favorite color please don't you have his now  my favorite show they recognize that it's about like different accepting difference whatever that differences even if it's not your favorite thing you don't need to like make me I also asked the kids not to say that so weird  soften what they mean is that's unfamiliar so I went to ask kids instead of saying weird I want to be those are all okay because those are non-judgemental sort of reactions and truth and what I love about little cases that if you teach them they will apply it right away I didn't assembly with over school kids about don't yak my young and other inclusive ways and then it was visiting classes afterwards in an second grade I litter at kid you not a kid was like that's  Hunter St I've never seen them before okay and what they care about what that difference is all that's kind of need a different than what I do but that's kind of cool right there super inclusive it's just a matter of giving them but immediate to get that conversation go and be mindful of children's media because it's not always good for kids  my kids my gauge more Children's media actually demonstrate more exclusive and Abilene behaviors and kids wengage an adult medium so like 30 minutes of watching SpongeBob will make your kids dinner 30 minutes watching friends The Berenstein Bears series are actually mean or to each other and sibling pairs to don't  okay anything yet because what's happening in children's media okay when you want what do they care about they care about inclusion and kindness and friendship and fairness and so if you want you show exclusion unkindness I'm not being good friends and unfair things right and if you want us to stay in the drama you shove it the most children's media to pay attention they spend more of their page time and their airtime on negative behaviors that turn on pro-social and inclusive behaviors shows are the same so for me it's about paying attention to are they sing a whole lot of modeling of exclusive Behavior or are they seeing lot of modeling of prosocial behavior and if they do and engage in media that's like not inclusive that it's really important that whenever we have the opportunity to we talked about it and interview so like if you're reading a book I honestly books around difference particularly like driving Bonkers because when kids pause Lauren about difference through book I notice of this is the formula I saw him so was different in this way and because of that these are the ways that other kids were mean to us auralite didn't invite them over or like was friends with them or made fun of them blah blah blah blah and they do that for a long time and they go and but then they realize they shouldn't do that it's so they became friends with happily ever after so for me it's it's about the idea of when we engage in literal you're whatever I'm I'm often often like to editorialize during the process so when somebody gets made fun of for their drift I'm always like all that was an unkind thing to do what will be a nice and inclusive thing to do and what will be away to like build up and make that person what I expect you to do when you encounter somebody  does that idea sending the camera I don't like not letting them engage in children's media left out about that Renee Brown talks about how shielding kids from media is like asking them to hold their breath so they don't breed and pollution it's not ha  what is recognizance at these are in the the the the massive currents of information and then like I don't know giving them an Oren teaching them how to roll right that's what you're up to  different oh my God what is 1 I mean is it getting my kingdom language and lingo and all of these things from  what does vibrate  set a table I don't know what to do and I think part of it is how old he 77 okay so for me you know I think it's the idea of okay so this is the conversation this is with an older child but it may be helpful but it's it was the this was actually like a freshman or sophomore in high school and this was one of my Breaking Bad was like super popular and it's like I feel completely like a moron because everybody's talking about the show and I haven't seen it and I got him all these characters and they had they had said no to that show because of the fact that it was like a teacher and drug and all that kind of stuff I don't want you to feel like terrible or left out or like really that's like stressing you out and I don't want to add to that stress at the same time there are lots of things about that show that I am not a fan of and so here's the deal stop  I will let you watch it but I have to watch it with you  so that we're both clear on what I dis what's the model on that show but it want the shows in this conversation I absolutely want to reserve my parental right to disparage all the messages but in the meantime you know exact them pop or like the character names that you don't feel completely lost when your peers are alike you know having all these conversations so yeah and honestly the the reality is like watching and teaching along the way is actually a great opportunity all like I've ever met was watching a TV show with my that's my nephew's like my research subjects like whenever I read about childhood research on always like absolutely show called Ella the Elephant and it was it's beautiful in many ways I love the show and many ways imagination friendships but there's a recurring character who is he play they play a game like she needs to like have it happened her way and then she needs to be the center of attention and all that kind of stuff and clearly the other characters don't like can at some point they realized there are more inclusive and you know Fair ways to play that game and so it resolves but the character never like a talking to write and so for me after about the third the third show because we were busy watching and I'm like I might you know I'm not a fan like what didn't you like it one friends kind of behave like this character over here and he's like no I don't like it I don't like it at all okay would you like to know what you can say if somebody behave that way when you're playing and he goes yes yes I would go to him that it was within his rights to say anything because the show never modeled what young people can do to stand up for themselves right self advocate are you just going to take it and someday they'll figure it out and then the resolution will happen yes let me just get to the middle

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